For life after separation
The relationship ended. Your life didn’t. Time to rebuild.
Rebuild Mode is a structured programme for life after separation or divorce — twelve weeks first, up to a full year if you want it. Three small actions a day, sized to the time you actually have, with tools for the moments that knock you sideways. Have children? The plan follows your parenting schedule. No mantras. No “winning the breakup”. Just steady, practical progress.
Android early access · Five-minute setup · Free to begin
01The two modes
Two kinds of day. One steady plan.
If you have children, separated parenting means living two alternating lives. Rebuild Mode reads your parenting schedule, knows which day it is, and shapes each day's actions to match — so neither life gets neglected.
The house has gone quiet.
This is the time the plan protects: your health, your people, your place. Small, deliberate moves that stop an empty evening becoming a lost one — and slowly turn child-free time into a life of your own.
Example reminder
“The house may feel quiet tonight. Make a plan before the evening begins.”
A typical week
Alternating weeks, alternate weekends, irregular patterns — any schedule, with one-tap overrides when plans change.
Today’s three actions
- Take a 20-minute walk without your phoneBody · 20 min
- Message one person you trustPeople · 5 min
- Clear one surface in the bedroomHome · 15 min
No children, or none who stay over? The schedule machinery simply steps aside: every day is a Rebuild day, and the programme, tools and coach work exactly the same. Rebuild Mode is for anyone putting a life back together after separation — parent or not.
02Six areas
Rebuild on six fronts. Not all at once.
A five-minute assessment scores each area from 1 to 5, and the programme starts where you actually are — usually with sleep, the house and one phone call, not a life overhaul.
Body
Sleep, food, movement, and the appointments you keep putting off. Energy first — everything else leans on it.
Home
Make the new place feel permanent, not temporary — and ready for the children when they walk through the door.
Parenting
Routines, one-to-one time, school mornings that run smoothly. Confidence as a solo parent, built by repetition. Shown as Fatherhood or Motherhood in the app — and if you don't have children, this area steps aside entirely.
People
Friends, family, asking for help before the evening gets long. Isolation is the real opponent here.
Purpose
Work, learning, and the interests you set down years ago. Something of your own to build, outside the divorce.
Future
Identity, boundaries, money, and a picture of life beyond all this — drawn slowly, on your own terms.
Scores are supportive indicators, not clinical assessments — and they move as you do. No children? The programme rebalances across the other five areas.
03The programme
Twelve weeks first. Up to a year if you want it.
Your plan is generated from your assessment, your parenting pattern if you have one, and the time you honestly have — ten minutes a day or forty-five. Stabilise first. Reconnect early. Ambition later, once the ground holds.
Steady the ground
- 01Stabilise
- 02Create basic routines
- 03Reconnect
- 04Strengthen the body
Make it yours
- 05Make the home yours
- 06New parenting routines
- 07Rediscover interests
- 08Expand the social world
Look forward
- 09Purpose and career
- 10Identity and values
- 11Future readiness
- 12Independence plan
Week 12 isn’t a paywall moment — it’s an independence plan. You review what held, keep the habits that matter, and plan the next ninety days without us. Want longer? Plus extends the programme to 26 or 52 weeks: consolidation weeks that rotate through the six areas, with a review-and-reset every quarter.
04The toolkit
A tool for the moment you’re actually in.
The daily plan carries the routine days. The toolkit is for the other kind: the message you shouldn’t answer, the 2am ceiling-stare, the mediation date, the first weekend the house goes quiet. Every tool is searchable, pinnable, and there when the moment comes.
For the hard moments
01Just-in-time help, built for the moment itself — not a course you wish you’d done earlier.
- Rough night — a plan for tonight
- 18 situation playbooks: “The other parent cancelled last-minute”, “You’re lying awake at 2am”, “A message that makes your blood boil”…
- Caught in a loop? — a rumination interrupt
- Crisis support — always free, never behind the paywall
Talking to your ex
02Not a messenger, and never a weapon — tools that lower the temperature before you hit send.
- Reply triage — should I reply at all?
- Say it calmly — rewrites a heated message into something brief, informative and court-safe
- Calm scripts for handovers and hard conversations
Co-parenting
03For the parents. The whole suite appears only if children are part of your week.
- Parenting calendar — schedule, handovers, hard dates, one-tap overrides
- Co-parenting plan builder — decisions, communication rules, handover checklist
- Keeping the kids out of the middle
- Ideas for a day with the kids — by age, budget and weather
Money & legal
04Plain-English structure for the practical untangling. Explanation, not legal advice.
- Get your money on a footing — budget, buffer, debts, benefits check
- Untangle joint finances & tell the right people
- The legal process, explained step by step
- Prepare for mediation (safety-checked first) and for court
Health, people & purpose
05The slow rebuild of the person underneath: sleep, movement, friendships, work.
- Build a wind-down · Move for your mood
- Reach-out kit & who to call
- Rediscover who you are · Living well solo
- Work & career, on your terms
Reflect & track
06Progress you can actually see — measured in weeks that went slightly better.
- Journal — typed or spoken
- Weekly check-in & your stats
- Rebuild-check — built on recognised wellbeing measures
- Deep-dive modules woven into your daily plan, from The Alcohol Reset to Sleep Restoration
- tools in one searchable place
- 30+
- tools in one searchable place
- situation playbooks
- 18
- situation playbooks
- deep-dive modules
- 11
- deep-dive modules
- curated daily actions
- 200+
- curated daily actions
- true recovery stories
- 8
- true recovery stories
05The rules it keeps
Built on different rules.
Most apps in this space want you angry, dependent or endlessly scrolling. Rebuild Mode was written against that grain, and these rules are enforced in its content, its coach and its design.
It is deliberately not
- a dating app
- legal advice
- a co-parenting messenger
- an AI therapist
- a place to relitigate your marriage
- 01
Action before introspection
It doesn't open with “how are you feeling?”. It opens with one thing that would make today five per cent better — and reflection follows action, not the other way round.
- 02
No toxic positivity
You will not be told that everything happens for a reason, or to go and win the breakup. Divorce is hard. The app doesn't pretend otherwise — it just refuses to let the hard part be the whole story.
- 03
Progress, not perfection
There are no streaks to break. A missed day is a missed day, not a verdict. What's measured is weekly consistency, areas strengthened and small wins that add up.
- 04
No ex-bashing
There are tools for the genuinely hard moments — a should-I-reply triage, a calm-message rewriter, playbooks for when something happens. Every one of them points the same way: keep it brief, keep the children out of the middle, and never try to win the breakup. Nothing here encourages hostility.
- 05
Designed to be graduated from
Success is not daily engagement forever. Success is deleting the app because the structure now lives in you — your routines, your people, your home, your plans.
06The coach
A coach in your corner. Not a therapist in your pocket.
For the nights when the plan isn't enough and you need to think out loud. An accountability coach that helps you pick the next small move — and knows exactly what it is not qualified to do.
Saturday · 21:14 · Rebuild Mode
I can’t face the empty house tonight.
The empty evening is probably the hardest part, especially when the house has just gone quiet. Don’t try to fix the whole weekend tonight. Choose one: a 20-minute walk, call someone you trust, or cook something and put a film on — without checking your ex’s social media.
Walk. Then I’ll ring Chris.
Good. That’s the evening handled. I’ll ask you tomorrow how the call went.
It knows your week
The coach knows your programme week, your weakest area and what kind of day today is — a parenting day or a quiet one — so its suggestions fit the day you're actually having.
Options, not essays
Replies acknowledge the situation briefly, then offer one to three practical moves. No lectures, no life-coaching monologues.
It never reads your words
What the coach can see is a handful of short pattern lines worked out on your phone — never your journal entries or check-ins. And you can switch even that off.
Hard limits
No legal advice, no diagnoses, no strategies for handling your ex. And if a message signals real danger, it stops coaching and points to real-world help immediately — before anything else, and never behind the paywall.
The coach is part of Rebuild Mode Plus. The app works fully without it — the programme, actions and check-ins never depend on it, and crisis support is free for everyone, always.
07Private by design
This chapter of your life is nobody's data set.
Rebuild Mode handles some of the most personal information there is. It's built accordingly — row-level security, minimal logging, and nothing about your children beyond a nickname you choose.
Only what the plan needs
One email address to hold your account, and whatever you choose to put into your plan. No questionnaire about your case, and no real names for your children — a nickname will do.
Your words stay yours
Journal entries and check-ins are never used for analytics, never sold, and never sent to the AI — the patterns the coach can see are worked out on your phone, and you can turn that off.
Take it or delete it
Export everything you've written as a single file, delete parts of your data, or delete the whole account — one flow, one confirmation, gone. No retention games, no guilt screen.
07Questions
Asked, answered, plainly.
Is this therapy?
No. Rebuild Mode is practical structure: a daily plan, a toolkit for hard moments and an accountability coach. If you’re struggling with your mental health, a professional is the right call — and the app will tell you so rather than pretend to be one. Crisis support is built in, free, and never behind the paywall.
I don’t have children. Is it still for me?
Yes. The app asks early on. Without children, the parenting schedule and the parenting area simply step aside, every day is a Rebuild day, and the programme rebalances across the other five areas — body, home, people, purpose, future. Everything else works exactly the same.
Do I have to write about my ex, or my legal case?
No — nothing requires it. But when those moments come, there are tools for exactly that: a should-I-reply triage, a calm-message rewriter, plain-English explainers for the legal process, and preparation for mediation and court. You open them when you need them, and none of it is legal advice or point-scoring.
My parenting schedule is irregular. Will it still work?
Yes. Alternating weeks, alternate weekends, specific weekdays, fully custom patterns — or no agreed pattern at all. Every individual day can be overridden with a tap, and the plan adjusts.
How much time does it take?
You choose: ten minutes a day up to forty-five. Three actions a day at most, sized to fit the time you said you had. Nothing is lost if you miss a day.
What does it cost?
The core is free: the 12-week programme, daily actions, calendar, weekly check-ins, journal, the situation playbooks, the money and legal explainers, and crisis support — which is never paywalled. Rebuild Mode Plus (£3.99 a month or £39.99 a year, after a 7-day free trial) adds the AI coach, deep-dive modules, insights and trends, the message rewriter, and extends the programme to 26 or 52 weeks.
Where can I get it?
Rebuild Mode is in Android early access. Join the early access list and we’ll send you the install link — iOS will follow. The onboarding questions come before account creation, so you see how it works before signing up with an email.
What happens after the twelve weeks?
Week 12 is an independence plan: you review what held, keep the habits that matter and plan the next ninety days on your own. If you want the structure for longer, Plus extends the programme to 26 or 52 weeks with a review-and-reset every quarter. Either way, the app is designed to be graduated from, not lived in.
From the guides
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You don’t need to rebuild everything at once. Start with tomorrow.
Five minutes of honest questions, a schedule if you need one, and your first three actions. Your answers stay on your device until you choose to create an account.