Guides
Practical guides for the rebuild.
Written the way the app is written: British English, no toxic positivity, no ex-bashing. Just the situations people actually face after separation, handled practically.
The rebuild
The long game: how recovery actually works, and how to run it deliberately.
Life after divorce: a practical 12-week plan to rebuild it
Not a transformation. A rebuild — six areas, three phases, and three small actions a day, in an order that works.
Read the guide →How long does it take to get over a divorce?
Shorter than you fear on the bad nights, longer than the people around you seem to expect. What the evidence and lived experience actually suggest.
Read the guide →Dating and love after divorce: when you’re ready — and how to tell
There is no official waiting period. There are honest signals, and better and worse ways to begin. A practical guide, pressure-free.
Read the guide →The stages of divorce — and how the five stages of grief actually work
Divorce is a bereavement where the other person is still texting you about the gas bill. The famous stages, honestly applied.
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The hard days
The quiet house, the empty weekend, the 2am loop — handled practically.
What to do on child-free weekends after separation
The first child-free weekends can feel endless. Here is a practical way to give them a shape — and, over time, a point.
Read the guide →Coping with an empty house after separation
The hardest hour is the one after the door closes. Practical ways to get through the quiet — and to stop the quiet running the evening.
Read the guide →Loneliness after divorce or a breakup — and what actually helps
It is not a character flaw, and it is rarely fixed by one big night out. What divorce loneliness actually is, and the unglamorous way through it.
Read the guide →Sleep problems after separation — and what to do tonight
The bed is half-empty and the brain is fully awake. Why separation breaks sleep so reliably, and the practical way to get your nights back.
Read the guide →How to tell people about your separation
You come out of a marriage with one story and forty people to tell it to. Who gets told, in what order, with how much detail — a field guide.
Read the guide →Drinking after separation: the honest audit
The wine has been doing more evenings than it used to. Why that happens, how to find out where you actually stand, and how to pull it back before it sets.
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Parenting apart
Schedules, handovers, two homes, and the conversations in between.
Co-parenting schedules: a practical guide for separated parents
The pattern you agree shapes both of your alternating lives. The common options, honestly compared — and how to run them without friction.
Read the guide →Making your new place feel like home for your children
Children do not need square footage. They need to know where their toothbrush is. How to turn a new address into their other home.
Read the guide →How to tell your children you’re separating
There is no version of this conversation that feels good. There is a version that goes well. How to plan it, say it, and hold steady afterwards.
Read the guide →Co-parenting with a difficult ex — without becoming difficult yourself
You cannot change how they behave. You can change what reaches you, what you feed, and what your children see. A practical system.
Read the guide →School holidays for separated parents: who has the children when?
UK schools are shut for around thirteen weeks a year, and the term-time schedule usually doesn’t stretch to cover them. How to plan the holidays without an annual war.
Read the guide →Co-parenting apps in the UK: what they do, and what none of them do
Shared calendars, court-safe messaging, expense logs. Useful, sometimes essential — and entirely about the two of you. How to pick one, and the gap they all leave.
Read the guide →Parallel parenting: how it works, and when it beats co-parenting
When every joint decision becomes a fight, there is a saner arrangement with a name. What parallel parenting is, how to run it, and why it is a success rather than a failure.
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Money, home & the legal bit
The unglamorous admin that protects you, in plain English.
Sorting your money after separation: a practical checklist
Two households now run on the money that ran one. The admin that protects you, in the order that it matters.
Read the guide →Moving out after separation: the decisions and the checklist
Who goes, when, and to where — and how to set the new place up so it works from the first week. The practical version.
Read the guide →UK divorce jargon, explained in plain English
The legal process arrives with a vocabulary nobody teaches. The terms you’ll actually meet, translated — England and Wales, under the post-2022 rules.
Read the guide →Changing your name after divorce: what you actually need (UK)
Reverting to a former name is usually simpler than the internet suggests — and there is no rush, and no rule that you must. The process, the documents and the update list, in order.
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Occasions
Christmas, birthdays and the dates that need a plan of their own.
Getting through your first Christmas after separation
The first one is the hardest. Settle the children’s arrangements early, plan your quiet day like it matters — because it does — and let the season be smaller.
Read the guide →Birthdays and milestones after separation
The calendar keeps serving up dates that were built for the old life. How to run the children’s days well, survive your own, and defuse the rest.
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